Introduction to r³

Hello Readers! Welcome to Reckless Reverie!

I just want to post a short introduction here, explaining what this blog is all about, while I have the words on the tip of my brain.

Let me present a word, a for-instance if you will: "Necrophilia"

When you think of someone being described as necrophilic, what comes to mind? What do you think of that person? For the record, a necrophile is someone who finds the dead sexually attractive/stimulating. And I mean to a serious degree, not someone who just thinks Kate Beckinsale was hot as that vampire chick in Underworld.

Most people are horrified at the idea of mixing sexuality with dead flesh. I think a lot of people would say a necrophile ought to be committed to a mental hospital, or at least forced into therapy with at least one psychiatrist, probably on some kind of antipsychotic medication. I think a lot of people would think the best outcome for a necrophile is to be "cured" of necrophilia. Barring that, I doubt many of us would be comfortable talking to or being around a known necrophile. That's just the impression I get of how the majority of people might react to the thought of necrophilia.

We fear what we don't understand, and we try to find ways to correct such situations into something that fits into our understanding and our comfort zone. But what if we can't "correct" it? What if necrophilia is a normal (as in mentally healthy) occurrence, albeit rare? Who's to say what really is normal/abnormal for the human mind, given how little we really understand about ourselves?

What's the point in talking about necrophilia? Why does it matter? This is gross, aren't there more important issues in the world?

Well consider this: We tend to feel disconnected from necrophiles. It's easy to distance ourselves from something we see as so bizarre/taboo/disgusting. But what if your child turned out to be necrophilic? What if that child had no symptoms of serious psychopathy, but was honestly, and irreversibly, necrophilic? Would you wish your child to be commited or medicated to try to get rid of that necrophilic desire? Some would say yes, I'm sure. But some, including myself, would say it would be wonderful if we could find a safe, acceptable outlet for necrophilic desires, such that my child could be free to explore that part of him/herself, fall in love with someone who shares those desires and makes him/her happy, and live that unique life to its fullest, without fear of persecution.

Does that make sense? Can it be done? Is necrophilia itself an unhealthy psychopathic condition? I'm just talking about the mental condition for now, not the act.

I don't know! But I don't think anyone actually knows. To come closer to understanding, I believe we need to open ourselves to getting inside the head of the necrophile. I think we need to leave behind preconceptions, and try to see through their eyes and hearts. Try to find ways to empathize with their desires, to understand what it's like to be an unapologetic necrophile. Try to find the dead attractive, as they do. Experiment with our own senses, twist our own desires. I think this is doable, if we're sincere about the effort. And I think if we can accomplish this, we can begin to see the necrophile as an equal, a peer, a regular person. Only in that light can we really begin to figure out what works and what doesn't in helping a necrophile lead a happy, healthy, and fulfilling life. That's something to which I believe all humans are entitled.

Necrophilia is the example I used here to illustrate the larger purpose of this blog. I explore ideas like this often in my own quest to open my heart to as many people as I can. I've found myself able to accept a great many issues that most find revolting, frightening, or insane. But these are issues which occur in the human race, and they are a part of us all. If we're to really ever abolish prejudice and war, we need to erase the idea of "otherness" and realize that we are all much more alike than we are different.

So in this blog, I'll try to chronicle my own explorations. My goal is to share perspectives which my readers may not have considered on their own. I want to make you think, to open your heart. I want my readers to explore so much here with me that if they ever find themselves face-to-face with, for instance, a necrophile, they'll be able to see that person as a brother/sister, and not as a freak.